Everyone searches for success
in whatever they choose to do. This article is all about the difference between
the people who find it and the people who fail.ke personal responsibility 1.Take
personal responsibility for your life
Nobody else can choose your life for you. Nobody else
knows what's going to make you happy. Nobody else is going to be able to take
the time and effort required to make your dreams a reality. And even if they
do, you won't feel like a success because you didn't do it yourself.
It all starts
with you.
There is one
common thread that goes throughout everything I've learned. In order to
be a success at anything in your life you must first take personal
responsibility. What this means is that you need to stop blaming
everyone and everything else for circumstances in your life. After all what is
easier and more likely to change - you or the rest of the world?
Taking personal responsibility means continually
asking the following three questions every day of your life:
1.
What did I do wrong to cause this situation?
2.
What can I do to improve this situation?
3.
What do I need to change about myself to make this
situation better?e - what does
success mean to me?
For most of us being a success means
fulfilling some inner desire. Don't be afraid to desire things in
life! Even the monk desires inner peace. Even the priest desires to be closer
to god. Everyone wants something, most people want lots of things. To
desire and to dream and to pursue what you dream about is what it means to live
and to be human.
I'm not going to tell you what to want... but I will
give you some tips that may help you decide.
1.
Don't go for material stuff. There are
tons of studies on happiness and life
satisfaction that say going after material possessions won't make you any
happier or more satisfied with life. Instead of buying a 4,000 square foot
McMansion in the suburbs you can barely afford, go for the small house in the
quaint neighborhood with the friendly neighbors. Spend the rest of your money
on going places and doing things you love.
2.
Do it for yourself. Don't waste your life
trying to impress someone else, whether it's by buying the big house or by
working a career someone else picked for you. If others aren't happy with your
decision, just refer them to my website.
3.
Society has got it wrong. Society itself imposes
on us a very narrow view of what it means to be a success. Define success for
yourself and you'll be much happier with the results.
4.
Go for experiences. It's ok to want that
house on the beach. But buy it because you love to surf and take late night
strolls not because you want to show other people your cool beach house. Experiences - memories & new learning - are the
substance of life.
5.
Go for personal growth. Challenge yourself, do
what you're afraid to do. One day you'll be able to look back on your life and
say "look where I came from and look where I am now" and be proud. Pride in who you are is priceless.
Act, take
action... do something! Do anything! Just do it! Every step you take is a step
towards the life you desire. Many people get to step 2, they decide what they
want and then they never do what's necessary to get what it is they desire.
They are frozen by fear.
This reminds me
of one of my favorite quotes:
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the
judgement that something else is more important than fear.
- Ambrose Redmoon
- Ambrose Redmoon
What he's saying
is that we are all afraid. Every time I try something new I'm afraid. The same
goes for professional athletes, entertainers, and anyone who’s ever
accomplished anything in life. What separates them from the rest of humanity is
that they have a conviction to act that overrides their fear. In order
to get what you truly want in life and be a success, you'll have to face and
defeat your fears.
Be aware that on
your way to becoming a success the first thing you do will most likely be the
wrong approach. You will probably fail miserably. You may even fail many times.
All of the positive thinking in the world won't be able to rescue you from your
self-doubts. Congratulations - you're on the right track!
Failure is
simply part of the process. Everyone who as ever succeeded at anything has
first failed, maybe a few times, maybe hundreds of times.
I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't
work.
- Thomas Edison
- Thomas Edison
Instead of thinking of it as a failure - like (one of
the most successful people of all time) Thomas Edison said - think of it as a
learning experience. Every new piece of information you learn will move you
closer to your goals and dreams and to having a successful life.
Have you ever met someone who thinks they never make a
mistake and that they're always right about everything? Come to think if it
when was the last time you were wrong about something?
Think of it this way, every time you have an argument
or disagreement with another person or even with something you read or watch
there is a 50% chance that you're the one who's wrong. The larger your ego is
the harder it will be for you to see this. A closed mind will never
learn, will never evolve, and will never attain true success - which is success
in all areas of life.
Life will teach you something new every day, but only
if you let it. This is perhaps the most
advice I can give you. After all, what is a life if you don't enjoy it? So
laugh at your failures, and celebrate your successes. Enjoy the challenge of it
all.
Take moments out of every day to look around you and
marvel at what you've accomplished so far. Think about the person you used to
be and the person you've become. If you can be happy about that then you're
already a success.
Even if you don't achieve a single goal, you will have
lived a better life than the billionaire that never took the time to appreciate
what he already had.
The truth is that it is not the result but it’s in the
individual the moments of our life are where true happiness manifests itself
and where true success can be found.
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